Don’t Freak Out: 3 Ways to Respond to Red Flags
One of the most important skills that needs to be developed between a child and parent to reduce the risk of sexual abuse is open communication. If your child doesn’t feel comfortable talking to you, or worries that you’ll freak out, or that you won’t listen to them, then you don’t have open communication.
Respond, Don’t React
At Saprea we often say “Respond, don’t react.” This means that when your child does or says something that raises a red flag, you don’t immediately fly off the handle.
For example, if your five-year-old tells you that he and his friend were showing each other their private parts—that’s a red flag. However, it’s also a pretty age-appropriate curiosity. If you yell and rant and rave and cry then your child will know to avoid that type of subject with you, and possibly develop some strange ideas about bodies.
Now, if you were to calmly ask a few more questions and listen to the answers your child gives you, then they will tell you why they were doing it, how it happened, where it happened, and anything else you want to know. After you’ve learned the whole story then you can decide how to respond.
In the case of a child doing or saying something inappropriate there are three things that you can do to address the situation.
Thank Your Child
Give An Appropriate Consequence
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